Rediscovering Our Unconditional Happiness

The goal in life is to achieve UNCONDITIONAL happiness. That’s what we all want. 

The question, then, is how do we, as adults, return to what is our natural state, the "state of little children"?

1. Understand that true happiness is UNcaused. It does not derive from outside of us but from our nature - from the Divine DNA out of which each of us was made.

2. You must come to understand the distinction between your True Self (unconditional love and joy) and your Conditioned (False) Self. In other words, you must come to know (not intellectually, but experientially) Who You Are (or rather, Who “I” is).

3. You must remain aware of the "I" and of the pull of the conditioned “me” in every moment.

4. When you feel emotional pain of any sort, it is because you have mistaken “me” for “I.” You have lost your awareness of the "I" (your witnessing presence or consciousness); the result is that your brain causes you to think that your very self is under attack, so you react with negative thoughts and feelings.

So how do you retain or regain your awareness and return to peace? By "dying to the false self." To do that, use these 2 steps:

Step 1: The INSTANT you feel a shift in your energy flow from positive to negative (due to a thought, feeling or emotion), IMMEDIATELY relax and release (Michael Singer's practice/ROARR).

Step 2: Once you have relaxed, even just a little, apply DeMello’s 4 Point Program: 1. Become aware of the emotion you're feeling. 2. Understand that the emotion is in you, not in external reality - you caused the emotion or feeling (reality provides the stimulus but you assign labels to that stimulus). 3. Never, ever equate who you are (your essential "I") with that feeling or emotion - your "I" or True Self is timeless, is always peaceful and joyful, and can never be threatened by criticism or inflated by praise; your emotions and feelings, like your thoughts, will come and go. 4. When you change (through the preceding 3 steps), everything around you will change for the better because you will be seeing people and things, perhaps for the very first time, as they actually are (mostly, we see people and things as we are, not as they are). Experiencing all of life as it actually is, rather than as we think it should be, is pure joy and happiness.

[CK Note: One should follow Singer’s approach in the heat of the moment and then, once you have regained a sense of peace, apply DeMello’s 4 Point Program to examine your state of Being and reestablish yourself in the seat of “I.”]